Sunday, June 9, 2019

How do You Know When to Hold on, and When to Let Go? Here's How


I’ll be honest.  I don’t think I’ve even heard the whole song.   At least, I don’t remember hearing it.  But I do remember this famous line.  You’ve got to know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, and it goes on from there.   It’s an oldie but goodie, The Gambler, Kenny Rogers

Why was I thinking of that song?  It’s because I was asking myself that question.  How do you know?   How do you know when to hold ‘em and when to fold ‘em?    How do you know when you are heading down a dead-end road, that you need to cut your losses and move on?  How do you know when you do need to hold on, to not give up, no matter how difficult it seems? 

In these words, God points the way.  So, let’s listen and hear what God has to say.  And today as we hear God’s word, we’re going to hear it in a unique way.  Today, we celebrate what you might call the Birthday of the church, a church that now crosses countless cultures and languages, that spans the world.  So, to honor the wondrous diversity God has created you will hear the passage in just a few of those languages in which God’s good news has come. 


How do you know?  How do you know when to hold ‘em, and when to fold ‘em?  How do you know when you need to hold on, and when you need to let go?   In this story, God tells you.   You will know when you know what voice you are truly listening to, the voice of fear or the voice of love? 
After all, why does Elisha stay with Elijah?  At first, I thought it was because Elisha wanted the pay-off.   He wanted a double helping of Elijah’s spirit.  He wanted the power.   But now I get it.  He didn’t stay with Elijah because he wanted something.  He simply wanted Elijah. He stayed because he loved his friend, his teacher.   And he asked for that double portion of spirit for the same reason.  It took a poem written by a dead son to his dad for me to get that. 

Have you ever heard the name Leighton Ford?   At one time, he was a  big deal in the Christian world.   He preached in stadiums to tens of thousands.   Since he was the brother-in-law of Billy Graham, Time Magazine even speculated he would succeed Billy if he retired. 
And, Leighton had a son, Sandy, who aspired to follow in his dad’s footsteps.  But, at 14 Sandy had been diagnosed with a syndrome that creates arrythmias in the heart.  Still after surgery at Duke University all seemed fine.  For a few years, it was. Sandy ran track.  He enrolled at UNC-Chapel Hill.  He even fell in love.   But shortly after he turned 21, Sandy went running and an arrthymia struck. He died on an operating table a few days later.  

After he died, his dad found this unfinished poem on his son’s desk.  Sandy had titled it.  “To Dad, for his 50th birthday.”   And there, Leighton read these words.  

What a golden honor it would be to don your mantle, to inherit twice times your spirit.
For then you would be me and I would continue to be you.
In that poem, Sandy Ford was remembering this story.  He saw it for what it was, the story of a great love.   Elisha had left everything behind to follow Elijah, to be mentored as a prophet.  And his love had become so strong that nothing, not even Elijah’s own words would pull him away from his side.   He didn’t want Elijah’s spirit because he wanted power.  He wanted the spirit because he wanted Elijah.  He wanted his spirit, his presence with him always. 
And when Leighton Ford read those words, words of his son’s great love for him, words of an Elisha written to his own Elijah, it changed his life’s direction.   He developed a ministry to mentor others.  He became an Elijah to the Elisha’s coming up in the world.  He invested in a small group of women and men to help them “run their race” for God.  
You see, at first, I was going to tell you to never give up, to persist no matter what.  But does that make sense?  Do you tell that to a woman getting beat up by her husband night after night?  No.   You tell her to get out of there.   And it’s not what God is telling you in this story at all. 
A woman in an abusive situation doesn’t stay out of love.  She might tell herself that, but it’s not true.  She stays out of fear, fear of her husband, fear of the unknown, fear of failure and embarrassment even. 
But Elisha stayed with Elijah out of love.  He wanted to be with his beloved teacher to the very end.  And God recognized that love and gave him that double spirit for which he yearned.
How do you know when to hold ‘em or when to fold ‘em.  You ask yourself what voice are you listening to?  Are you listening to the voice of love or the voice of fear?
After all, when Leighton Ford started that mentoring ministry, he had to fold ‘em a bit.  He had been with Billy Graham for close to thirty years.   He had become an important leader in the church around the world.   To start this new direction, he would leave a ministry where he preached to tens of thousands so he could sit and invest in a room of just ten.   Why did he do it?  He listened to the voice of love, to a God who said.  This is what I want you to do.  Fear would have led him to stay with the familiar, with what had made him famous.  But love led him in a different direction, one he has never regretted.
But when love calls you to persist, to hold on, it will not always be easy.  Sometimes, it will be hard, scarily hard.  You will hear the voice of fear telling you to let go, to give up, to walk away.   But if love has called you there, then love will get you through.
A month or so ago, I read a story about the Paumari people in Brazil.   The Paumari live in some of the remotest regions of the Amazon.   But after their encounters with outsiders, the Jara as the Paumari call them, they found.  These Jara often despised them.  As a result the Paumari had come to hate being Paumari.   And in that situation almost 40 years ago, a 19-year-old woman, Braulia Ribiero, decided to join a four-person team to plant a mission station in a remote Paumari village.   Two members of the team had grown up in the Amazon.  But Braulia had grown up in the city and had no clue.  So why was she there?  She had some training in the Paumari language. 
To reach the village, they first traveled for five days by river to Labrea, a small town in the middle of the Amazon.   But from there, they still had a week to go.  For that they needed a boat that would take them there.   But here was the problem. They had only a few hundred dollars left.   They had planned to use that money for three months of supplies so they could survive.   That left no money for a boat. 
 But then they heard God saying to them.  Give up all you have.  Trust me for the rest.  And amazingly that’s exactly what they did.  They commissioned the smallest boat they could find.  And when they asked the price.  He gave exactly the amount of money they had left.   So, they went on that boat with no walls, no bathroom, no kitchen, just a small diesel engine.   It took five days to get to the mouth of the Cunhua river. There they found a man with a canoe who would take them to Manicoa lake where these Paumari had their floating village.  
When they got there, they got off in front of the first hut they saw on a sort of floating dock.  Braulia used her Paumari to say hello.  “Ivaniti”  Is that you in Paumari.    An old woman answered.  Ha’ a hovani “Yes, it’s me.”   She didn’t seem surprised by these strangers.   Instead, she invited them in for a dinner of fried fish.   And, after an hour of visiting she asked them who they actually were.   Braulia said in her broken Paumari.  We are missionaries.  
At first the woman looked puzzled then she called to her grandson, Danilo.   “Come over Danilo. The missionaries have arrived.  Take them to their home.”   Puzzled Braulia and her friends asked.  “Our home?”  Yes, she said.   Danilo and I built it for you two years ago.   We heard on the radio about the creator, God, and how his son, Jesus wants to help us.  So, I said.  “If that is true, he will send his people.  So, we built the hut for you.”
Braulia and her friends stayed there for six months. They taught the Paumari to read and write in their own language.   They opened a makeshift medical clinic.   They taught the adults better math so that the river merchants wouldn’t swindle them.  But more than that, they changed how these Paumari viewed themselves.   After all, these outsiders, these Jara, depended on them, the Paumari to survive.   Their dependency was mutual.  Their relationship was equal.   And they began to be proud to be Paumari again.   Their years later, that village, now a thriving, productive Christian community still remains proud to be Paumari    
Faced with that choice between food and a boat, fear said to them, Give up, go home. But in the midst of the fear, they heard a voice of love saying.  Trust me and go.  And because they did, they discovered that God had already prepared the way two years before. 
Today we remember how Jesus asked his fear-filled followers to stay behind in Jerusalem, to wait for the Spirit to come.   Their fear told them to go home, where it was safe and secure.  But they stayed and prayed in that city. Why?  Jesus, the one they loved, the one who so loved them, had asked them to.  And so, trusting in that love, they did.  And the Spirit did come, and the world has never been the same.
In the church I serve we face great challenges to reach our community with that same love of Jesus.  And it will take great persistence sometimes against great odds.  At times, fear might tell us to give up or not risk or not try new things for fear of failure.  But if we listen to the love, if we commit to love others as Jesus has loved us, freely and generously, without condition, then that love, that love that has given everything for us, will show us the way. 
And in your own life, when the questions come.   Do I fold ‘em or do I hold ‘em.  Ask yourself. What voice am I listening to the voice of love or the voice of fear?  And whatever the answer, let love be your guide.   And in that love, you will find your way, even on the scariest of days.  For if love has called you there, then love will get you through.   

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