Sunday, December 10, 2017

What is the One Truth of Christmas that Frees You From Hiding, From Living in the Dark of Fear and Shame

I don’t even remember why I dropped by that day.   But, over 30 years later, I still remember.  I still remember my shock, my disgust.   The carpet looked so stained, so dirty, I didn’t even want to walk on it.   And the tables looked like someone had beat on them with a hammer, and then smoothed a sticky glaze of sweet, liquor to camouflage the damage.  And the bar, I didn’t even want to put my hands there, thinking I’d catch something deadly just by contact. 

But get this.   I had been in this very place countless times before, yet I had seen none of this.  This club was one of the “go to” spots for my college buddies and me to hang out and try to get dances from the co-eds in the art school across town.   But all the times before, I had seen it in the dark.   That place had never had the lights on.  Now I knew why.   The dark can hide all sorts of ugliness.

Just look at the news of the last two months.  Name after name of quite famous folks found doing things under cover of darkness that have shocked everyone.   Household names even discovered engaging in the most awful and abusive behaviors towards others.   For years, the darkness hid the ugliness.  The preacher Dwight Moody put it well.  Character is what you are in the dark.

But how many want of us want everything in the light?  You likely have things about yourself, things within you, that you’d rather not see the light of day.  It’s funny.  As a child, I was scared of the dark.  Now, I realize.  The dark can become a pretty comfortable place to be.   In the dark, you can ignore things that you’d rather not see.   In the dark, you can do things that you’d rather others not see.  

In the dark, you can hide.  You can hide from others.  You can hide from God.  You can hide even from yourself.   But in that dark, you miss so much of what you need to see.   You become so much less than what God intends you to be.   Yet even so, the dark can draw you in, even before you realize it. 

How many times have you realized something too late; some habit that you avoided looking at too closely; some health issue you kept overlooking; some problem in a relationship that you kept sweeping under the rug; or some other painful truth you refrained from facing.  And by the time, you faced it, well, the damage was done.  Someone once put it this way.  Hell is truth seen too late.    How do you live a life where you become free of that darkness?  How do you discover the way to freedom, to a life lived in the light, in the best sense of what that word means?  In this very familiar story, God shows you the way.   Let’s listen and hear what God has to say. 


It can seem easier to stay in the dark, especially about things in yourself or others you’d rather not see.   But in the end, that darkness blinds you from the very things you need to see most.  Most crucially, it blinds you to the one truth that frees you from the darkness now and forever.  How do you see that truth?  Here God shows you.   God tells you, only when the light shines do you see that the truth that terrifies you actually opens you to a joy and freedom that nothing can overcome. 
Do you notice something a bit unusual in this famous story?   Do you notice when the shepherds get scared.  They don’t get scared in the dark.   Heck, they’re totally fine with the darkness.   No, what terrifies them is the light.  

Then an angel of the Lord stood before them and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified.  

Now certainly, just an angel showing up would disturb anyone.   And this glory that shone around them sounds like it was no flashlight.    This glory had to have been something pretty big. 

But beyond that obvious point, God is pointing to something deeper not only about these shepherds but about everyone.   In most folks, if they’re honest, what terrifies them the most isn’t the darkness, it’s the light.    Why?   It’s in the light that people can most easily see your flaws and imperfections.  And no one wants folks to see those things, even to see the little ones.

When I grab lunch in my office, I always make a point of taking off my shirt while I eat.   I know.  If I don’t, no matter how careful I am, something will end up getting on my shirt.  And I hate when that happens.   I realized how much I hate it just a few days ago at Costco.  My son and I were taking advantage of all the samples.   Then it happened with the Italian olive sauce on the cracker.   Not all the sauce made it to my mouth.  A huge glob landed on my shirt.  Then to top the embarrassment, my son immediately and loudly pointed it out.  “Daddy, you’ve got a stain on your shirt!”

Now, on that trip to Costco, I saw no one I knew, yet I still felt mortified.  All of a sudden, I felt as if everyone was looking at me, the poor klutz who can’t keep his shirt clean.   Human beings just don’t like looking bad.   No one wants others to see their frailties and flaws, even if it’s simply a stain on your shirt.

So, what do you do instead, you hide them.  You keep them in the dark, as much as you can.  But in that darkness, two terribly dangerous things usually happen.   First, in the darkness, your failings might even become greater, but your ability to see them, grows less and less.   Or, the exact opposite happens, in the dark, your failings become big enough to almost swallow up your life. 

Just a few days ago, I was walking around the church sanctuary with a volunteer.  And he pointed out a place on a wall in the entrance are of the church that had been patched, but left unpainted.    It looked pretty awful really.   Yet, as I thought about it, that patch had likely been there for at least ten years, and in all that time, I can’t remember ever noticing it.  Has that ever happened to you?    You have some place in your home that’s in disrepair or just doesn’t look right, but you hardly notice it anymore.   So, when do you notice it?   Usually it’s right before a guest comes over or worse than that, when your guest notices it for you.  

What happens in your house can happen in your life.  In much of the news regarding sexual misconduct that has come out, it’s been striking to notice the difference in awareness.   The folks, largely women, who have experienced mistreatment have never forgotten it.   But those who did the deed, often can’t even remember.   In life, when you hide your ugly places, you can hide them so well, that you don’t even notice them.   You don’t notice the habit that has gone out of control.  You don’t pay attention to a pattern of behavior that hurts the people you love again and again.     You don’t realize how a thought you carry or resentment you harbor is twisting up your whole life.   And you don’t want to see it, because well, seeing that reality feels like it hurt too much.  But in reality, it’s already hurting you.    It’s simply become a hurt you’ve grown used to having.

On the other hand, what you keep in the dark, instead of becoming less noticed, can actually become bigger than ever.    It’s why the brother of Jesus, James wrote in his letter the following sort of strange sentence:  Confess your sins to one another that you may be healed.   How can just telling someone else your failings heal you?   It heals you because once you put it in the light, it loses its power.   It loses its hold on you.   And once free of that power, of that shame, you become free to move forward.   In fact, lots of folks find help in therapy, simply by having a place that feels safe to share their faults and failings.     

So, on that dark night, when the angel showed up, those shepherds weren’t just terrified because of the light.   They feared what that light exposed in them.   I used to think that folks in Jesus’ day considered shepherds to be outcasts.   But when you look at how the Bible celebrates shepherds, that doesn’t make much sense.  

But still, being a shepherd didn’t put you on the highest rung of the social ladder nor the religious one either.   Shepherds had a hard time keeping religiously pure as their leaders defined it. And they couldn’t keep the Sabbath because sheep need constant protection. Being a shepherd also meant you spent most of the time away from society, hanging in the fields with your sheep.   But maybe shepherds preferred it that way.   There they avoided society’s judgment.  There they didn’t have to face how far they fell short of others’ religious expectations.   And maybe that’s exactly why God showed up there. 

Because in the midst of their terror at the light, the angel brings these amazing words.  “Do not be afraid; for see – I am bringing you good news of great joy for all the people.”  

Standing in God’s light can be terrifying at least at first.  I can think that the white shirts I wear still look white.   But when I hold it up to something that is actually white, well, they don’t look so good anymore.   And the brightness of God’s goodness, God’s holiness can do the same. 

But here’s the difference.   If you think of your failings like a stain on a shirt, that can be scary.  After all, some stains don’t come out.   You have to cover them up instead.   And to avoid staining in the first place, you have to avoid anything that hints at something God wouldn’t want.   In Jesus’ day, that’s how religious folks thought of sin, of moral failings.  They saw it as a stain that becomes almost impossible to wash away.

But in this story, God gives a different picture of God’s goodness, God’s holiness, and of our failings and faults.   Here, God’s goodness comes as a light.  And that light overwhelms all the darkness, inside and out.     So instead of the judgment and condemnation the shepherds fear, they receive good news of God’s deliverance for everyone, not simply the morally upright, but for everyone.   They even receive a special calling, to be the first bearers of this good news to the world.  

In their story, God shows you the way to freedom from those things you keep in the dark. Here God tells you.   Your failings aren’t some stain that can’t be washed out.  No, they are a dark place that the light of my love blows away.   In my light, God says, you don’t receive the judgment and condemnation you fear.  No, you receive the grace and forgiveness you need.   You discover a God who sees you as you are, ugly places and all, and doesn’t walk away.  No, this God come so close that in Jesus, he became one of you.   No, Jesus did more than that.  Jesus took your darkness into himself.    That’s what happened to Jesus on that cross.  Darkness literally fell upon Jesus.   The light of the world fell into darkness.   What does that mean?    If God is light, then the further you are from God, the darker things become.  That darkness takes you away from the ultimate source of all life, all beauty, all truth.  That darkness Jesus took on.   God became cut off from God.   Why did God in Jesus enter that darkness for you?  In Jesus, God did it so that his light would defeat that darkness now and forever.  Jesus took on the darkness, including your darkness, so he might give you the light; so that you might become the very radiance of God.   In that ultimate gift, Jesus brought the light so close that God’s love has now shattered the power of that darkness forever. 

A Greek monk named Symeon, wrote so stunningly of that light, that his words have now lasted over a thousand years.   Symeon wrote this beautiful prayer.

We awaken in your body, O Christ, As you awaken in our bodies.
I wake up inside Your Body Where all my body, all over,
Every most hidden part of it, Is realized as joy in You
And You make me, utterly, Real,
And everything that is hurt, everything That seemed to me dark, harsh, shameful, Maimed, ugly, irreparably Damaged, is in You transformed
And recognized as whole, as lovely, And radiant in Your light.

That is what Jesus has done, and still yearns to do in your life.  In that light you have nothing to fear.   For that light brings you good news of great joy that is for all the people.   And all you need to do is say yes, yes to that light, yes to it entering every painful regret, every dark secret, every broken and shameful place bringing a light no darkness can overcome.  What dark places do you carry?  Where do you need to say yes to that light?    

   


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