Sunday, May 1, 2016

Two Things You Can Know that Get You Through, Even Bring You Joy, in Life's Hardest Times

It always blows me away.    On one level, it doesn’t seem to make sense.  But the more I think about it, the more sense it does make.    This week I read another report confirming this surprising truth.  Research shows again and again that:   “Being better educated, richer, or more accomplished doesn’t do much to predict whether someone will be happy.  In fact, it might mean someone is less likely to be satisfied with life.”    

Do you get that?   Being richer or smarter, even generally more awesome, won’t make you happier.  It might even make you less.   Almost forty years ago, three university researchers compared two groups.   One group had recently won a big prize in the lottery, and the other had recently suffered tragic accidents that paralyzed either their legs or whole body.  Now,who do you think showed greater levels of everyday happiness?   It was the folks who had been paralyzed.   Granted, it wasn’t a huge difference, but it was definitely there. 

Most of the things people think will make them happy don’t do that at all.   So what does?  What truly brings a life of contentment, happiness, even joy, even in the face of the worst that the world can throw at us?   In these words from Romans, God shows us the way.   Let’s hear what God has to say.


If circumstances don’t really bring happiness, what does?  Here God tells us.  Happiness, even joy, comes when we know two profoundly true things.   Even in the worst things we face, God will work for good, and when it comes to the truly valuable things, no circumstance, no matter how hard, can take away.

But let’s first make it clear.  When Paul writes that God works all things together for good for those who love God, Paul isn’t giving some sort of sentimental, bumper stick sentiment.   He is not telling us something like every cloud has a silver lining.  Paul knows.  A lot of clouds don’t.  He quotes later a psalm that talks about people being slaughtered like sheep.  He quotes those words because he is talking to people who are getting slaughtered just like that.   And Paul knows.  There is nothing good in that. 

Do you know what the shortest verse in the Bible is?   It’s two words.   Jesus wept.  And those two words tell us everything about how God views suffering.    Where was Jesus weeping?  He was weeping at the tomb of his friend, Lazarus.   Yet get this.   Jesus was getting ready to raise Lazarus from the dead.   So why was he weeping?   Shouldn’t he have been more like, “Hey, everyone!  No worries.  I got this.”   But the fact that Jesus was about to bring Lazarus back, did nothing to lessen the pain of Lazarus’ suffering or the suffering of those who loved him.   God hates suffering.  God hates disease.  God hates death.   And what God is saying to us is that.   If you love me, if you stay focused on my purpose, I will never let those evil things have the last word in your life.   Even out of those things, I will find a way to redeem them for good.

Now, in one way that we look at this, this promise of God makes sense.    As Paul points out here, God chose us with the intention of conforming us to the image of his son, to the image of Jesus.   And in life, you can think that your worst problems are your circumstances.   But you’d be wrong.   Circumstances cannot destroy your life the way your character flaws can, your foolishness or pride or blindness to your faults or most deeply the profoundly mistaken belief that you don’t need God in your life at all.         

But what knocks our character flaws out of us?  Usually, it’s facing hard things that does it.   When you go through suffering, that suffering has the potential to grow you in ways that the painless parts of your life could never do.    Each of us has things in our life that have caused us pain, sometimes incredible pain, but through that pain, we’ve learned things.  We’ve developed ways of dealing with life that we would not have had otherwise.    With every bad thing that happens in your life God can and will use it to conform you more deeply to the image of his son, to the image of Jesus.   And in the end, you will have no lasting joy, without that image of Jesus, being formed in you.

But of course that doesn’t address the biggest question.  In your life, and in the lives of others, you will encounter situations where you will not be able to grasp or understand how God might be working to bring about good.  You will not be able to see it.   So, don’t expect to. 

What if I had been there on the day Jesus died?    If I had just known what everyone else knew on that day, what would I have seen?   I would have seen a man who I knew to be incredibly good, who had healed the sick, who had welcomed with love everyone.  I would have seen him tortured, brutalized, mocked and killed in a brutal miscarriage of justice.  I might have known that religious leaders had behind it all.   I would have heard him cry out how he was forsaken even by God.  Now, what would I have thought?   I would probably have gone home, doubting that God even existed.  Why?  Because, in no way could I see how in the world God could be doing anything good in that.   Yet in reality, in the midst of all that ugliness, God was doing good, the greatest good in history even.   
God is always working good, but just because God is always working it, doesn’t mean you can always see it.   In reality, you and I will have times where we will not.  

The great Christian thinker, Augustine had a helpful way to think about it.   Have you ever looked at a tapestry?    Those things can be stunningly beautiful, breathtaking works of art.  But have you ever seen the other side?   It’s a mess or at least, it looks like a mess.   Threads of every color are going everywhere, with seemingly no rhyme or reason.  Only when you look at the front, it becomes clear.   All that seeming chaos has created remarkable beauty.  But this side of heaven we only see the backside of that tapestry.   We cannot see how God is weaving a tapestry of love and goodness even in the midst of suffering and evil.   But God is.  And when you think about it, does it make sense that we would see it?  

Recently I read that how our senses perceive reality has no real relation to what actually exists.  Now it works for us.   It keeps us alive for instance.  But the world we see, and the world that in reality exists are two very different things.   Now if we can’t even accurately perceive the basic aspects of the world around us, what makes us think we could accurately perceive the work of a being infinite in understanding and power?

But beyond knowing that God is working even in the midst of the hardest things we face, we can know more.  We can know that nothing we face can ever take away what truly and ultimately matters.  

When people think about religion, they generally think that religion is telling us how you can connect to God; how you can rise up to God.  But the gospel tells a radically different story.   The gospel talks about a God who comes down to connect with us.   And when God comes, this God doesn’t come in power.  This God comes in weakness and poverty.   Why?  It is because God is showing us that he has not come for the strong and the certain.  No, this God meets us even in our weakness, even when nothing seems certain to us.   When we feel as we have nothing, we can know.  God is there.   For this God does not come with a list of expectations for you to meet.  No, this God comes to give you a love without conditions, a love without end, a love that nothing, not even death can defeat.   And when you realize that, that your standing with God depends on a love that God has for you that is utterly unshakeable; that this God will never abandon you, then that realization gives you a profound confidence.   You know that no matter what the world takes away from you, it can never take that ever.   And in the end, that love is the only thing that truly and ultimately matters.  When you know that, even when you have nothing, you know even then, you have everything you need.    

The pastor Dan White tells a story of a homeless woman and her three kids who were getting settled down to sleep in the gymnasium that sheltered them.  She told him how she and her kids had fled from the abuse her husband had been inflicting on them.  Then she shared that every night she requests extra dinner portions from the local shelter, and then brings it back to her spot in the gym.   She then invites others she’s met on the street to join her in her family’s corner of the gym.   She sets up a dinner, dividing the food up equally, and then prays for each one’s needs around the circle.   She explained to Dan that she felt it was important to be generous, to give them a sense of family, even if she didn’t have a home herself.   And do you know what she told him?  She said.  “I feel so fortunate to have what I have.”

How can that woman carry such joy and generosity, even in the face of so much lack?  She knows that she has something that no loss can ever take away from her.  She can set up that table of welcome and generosity in that gym, because she knows about this table.  She knows what this table proclaims. 

At this table, God says to you, I became utterly forsaken, so that you can know you never will be.  I went through suffering and injustice to show you that in the face of whatever evils you face, my love will always have the last word.   I paid the price for your failings with all that I had, so that I might give you all you ultimately need, my grace, my forgiveness, my faithful love.  I died so that you might have life, abundantly, now and forever.   And when you know what this table proclaims, when you know it to be true, then no matter what you face, you can have peace, happiness, even joy.    

                      

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