Monday, November 14, 2016

In Elections and Life, How Do you Deal When Things Don't Go Your Way?

Let’s be honest.   Today, after this election, half of the nation is not feeling so great, and the other half, they’re feeling pretty good.    And likely four years from now, the same thing will happen then too.   And that’s ok.    It’s good, even.   Who wouldn’t want folks to have strong feelings about what they believe, what they desire, including what they desire for this nation?   
   
But what do you do with those feelings when things don’t go the way you want?   This question doesn’t just apply to an election, it applies to life.   And how you answer that question makes a huge difference in the life you will have.  In life, things will happen that you don’t want to happen.   Nothing in life goes the way you want it every time, heck, not even most of the time.  So when that happens, how do you need to react?   In this strange, even disturbing story, God gives you the answer.  God shows you how peace, even fulfillment can happen in a world where so many things don’t go your way.  So let’s listen and hear what God has to say.   


When life doesn’t go your way, how do you respond?   How do you face those situations in a way that leads to life and peace rather than resentment and fear?  In this story God tells you.   God warns you that the more you try to control your world, your relationships, even God, by anger and assumption the more you move away from what God calls your life to be.   Life comes not when you assume and separate but when you learn to listen and to love. 

As this story begins, David has come up with a terrific idea.   As the new king of Israel, he wants to bring the Ark of God home.   But the ark, this symbol of God’s presence, this gold plated box that held the Ten Commandments with two angels sculpted on top, it had been left in this small town on the border of Israel for years.  So David thought.  What better way to show my commitment to God then by bringing the Ark to Jerusalem?   But let’s just say, things did not go the way he expected. 
It starts out well.   He pulls together his whole army to march it in.   He gets a nice cart to put it on.    But then the cart hits a pothole.   And poor Uzzah just reaches out to steady it, to keep it from falling to the ground.  What does God do?   God strikes the poor guy down.    Talk about killing the parade.   God zapping some poor schlub will do it every time.   

Now, when people hear stories like this, they think.  This is why I hate all this religious stuff.    You’ve got these awful stories of a trigger happy God who strikes down people willy nilly.   And frankly this is what David thought.    He walked away from the ark, and from God.    The whole experience turned him off so much that he didn’t even leave the ark with an Israelite family.   He pushed it on some poor foreign family, figuring, let God zap those folks.   

But did David make the right move?   Did God just strike down poor Uzzah for no reason?      What is really going on here?  

To figure that out, you need to understand what David didn’t do.   When it came to the ark, God had given a whole set of rules on how to treat it.     You didn’t put the ark out where anyone could see it.   In fact, on only one day a year, Yom Kippur, could anyone see it, and even then, only one person, who would go in as a representative of the people.   And if you ever had to move it, you literally covered it up.   You did not even touch it.   Instead the ark had little rings on either side.    And Levites, who God had specifically set aside for this task, would insert poles into the rings, and carry the ark on their shoulders.

Yet does David do any of that?   No.  He manhandles the thing onto a cart.  He puts it on display for everyone to see.    And instead of getting Levites to carry it, he recruits the two sons of Abinadab, the guy who had been keeping it.        

Now you might be thinking.  Ok, so what?   Why is God so uptight about the rules?  It’s because the rules have a purpose.   They carry a profound message about God, about life.   And if you don’t get that message, then it leads in a direction that will hurt, even destroy you and others. 

Early this past Wednesday morning, an important ritual began.  Hillary Clinton called President elect Trump to concede.    Then Trump issued a call to unity, words of admiration for his opponent, and a promise to represent every American.   The next day, Clinton followed it by a speech to her supporters asking them to support the President elect.   And four years ago, pretty much that same thing happened, and four years from now, it will happen again.   Those rules aren’t written down, but everyone knows they exist.  Now why do we do it that way after every Presidential election?   Are we just not imaginative enough to come up with something different?   Are we too uptight, too rules focused to do it any other way?   No, we know that these unwritten rules are bigger than us.  They’re about making sure that power, tremendous power moves peacefully.   They’re about showing stability and strength not simply to our citizens, but to the entire world.    And the stakes of not doing that are simply too high to play fast and loose with those rules, even if they are unwritten. 
And here the stakes are even higher.   Imagine if you go out to eat with someone, and before you can get a word out, they go ahead and order for you.   They explain. This is what I like to eat, and so that’s what I think you should have.    You’d likely be thinking.  How rude!  He better be picking up the check.  

At a deeper level, David does exactly this with God.   He assumes that since he is now the King he can handle God anyway he chooses.   He probably didn’t even take the time to find out how God wished the Ark to be handled.  David figured he’d do it the way he wanted.     Right from the beginning, David was acting as if the Ark of God was something to be manipulated to show his connection to God, to bolster his standing as the king.   He was making a dangerous assumption about his relationship to God.  He assumed that God was someone he could control, that he could use however he wished.   And God knows.  If this pattern of arrogance continues, it will destroy not just David.  It will destroy the nation. 

So God delivers a wake-up call to David’s pride through a tragic death.  In that death, God is first saying to Uzzah.   “You want to make sure this holy object doesn’t fall to the ground?  What makes you think that the ground isn’t holy, since I made it?  What makes you think that your hands are holier, that your hands have any right to handle the things of God?”   And God is saying to David.  “Don’t you ever think you can handle me, that I am someone you can control to get your way.”   The rules I’ve given, rules you’ve arrogantly ignored, make that reality crystal clear. 

And just to emphasize the point, God not only doesn’t zap anyone in the foreigner’s house where the ark resides.  He showers blessing upon blessing upon them.  And when David hears that, something changes.   He moves from anger to curiosity.  Who is this God who zaps an Israelite, but then blesses an outsider? David had first assumed he could handle God any way he wanted.  Then he had assumed that God is so arbitrary he can’t relate at all.  But now he is finally asking, rather than assuming.   
Too often people never get past David’s first reaction.  When what they ardently believe is right doesn’t go their way, they get angry, and their anger leads to assumption.   They assume that they are on the side of right, and therefore whatever blocked their way can’t be.   And so like David, they separate themselves. They turn away rather than turn towards.

But when David sees this God acting contrary to how he assumed God to be, he gets curious.  And his curiosity leads to insight.   He reads the rulebook.  We know that by how things go the second time around.   This time he makes the appropriate sacrifices.  He wears the appropriate garments.  He lets God set the agenda not David. 

And strangely this honoring of God’s ways doesn’t limit David, it liberates him.  He dances before the Lord.   He makes lavish sacrifices. He showers delicacies on the people.   

But one person sees this, and doesn’t understand at all.   His wife, Michal, the daughter of Saul, the former king, is appalled.  After all, as the king’s daughter, she knows how a king in the ancient near east is supposed to act.  And she knows.  This is not it.   A king has to be separated from the people, set above them as a god.  He can’t be running through the streets dancing, giving everyone cakes.  That’s ridiculous.  

In her anger, she assumes that David has done it to glorify himself, and to embarrass her.  And when David comes home, she lets him have it.     Now David tries to explain.   He tells her.  “Don’t you get it?  This wasn’t supposed to be me.  But God, out of his sheer grace, picked me to be king.  What else can I do but celebrate?   And dignity?  Forget about dignity.  I lay down everything for God.  I will even be humiliated for him.   And while you may not see my lack of dignity for what it is, others will.”  And then the story ends with these enigmatic words, that Michal had no children until the day of her death.  

Now, at first I thought.  God is judging Michal for her angry words.   But is that it?   Or is God letting us know that David still has a lot to learn.   Yes, Michal got angry and lashed out.  But David does the same.   He even throws in a cruel jab about how he has become king over her father, now tragically dead   What an irony.  David has in some sense gotten his way.  He has brought the Ark to Jerusalem.    But in his self-righteous pride, he still gets caught up in anger and assumption.    

And so David and Michal both angrily make assumptions about the other.   And instead of seeking to understand, they separate.   And what results?  Their marriage has no fruit.  It dies before it has hardly begun.  

Things haven’t changed so much.   I see people reacting like that all the time.   When things don’t go their way, they get angry.   Now that anger could lead them to ask questions.  Instead it usually leads them to make assumptions.  They don’t seek to understand.  They just walk away instead.    And so marriages get wrecked, friendships get wrecked, community gets wrecked, even Christian community.   And in these difficult days, that sort of anger and assumption can wreck our nation too.    
But let me be honest, I don’t just see other people doing it, I see me doing it.   And whenever I do, it makes a mess.   How many here can say they haven’t done it, might even be doing it right now?   How easy it is to self-righteously assume you’re the one in the right, and anyone who disagrees is in the wrong?   How easily you can fall into angry separation rather than simply seeking to understand someone?   But how do you break free of that?  How do you find the power to move past anger and separation?  How do you come to a place where you truly seek to understand, to even love those who see things profoundly differently than you do?


You turn to another King, a King who could have turned away in anger from those who turned away from him, but instead turned towards them in love.   When they refused his ways, he didn’t separate.   No, he left his Kingship behind to become their friend, even their servant instead.    And out of his great love, he gave everything for them, even his life; his very existence, to bring them home.     And the more you let this King love you, the more this King will free you.   Jesus will free you from the self-righteousness that leads you to see so easily other’s wrong but be so blind to your own.   He will fill you with a loving anger that leads you to not only seek justice, but to seek to understand and to love, even as Jesus has understood and loved you.   And in the wonder of his humble grace, you will find a freedom to trust even when you don’t understand.  In his unwavering faithfulness, you will find a hope that can withstand the most perplexing disappointments.  And in his extravagant love, you will find a confidence that will lead you to know that no matter what happens, his love, his infinite, unstoppable love will always have the last word.   

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